Parenting is the work and parenting skills of parenting. The discussion on parenting in this reference, the authors emphasize the discussion of parenting patterns by parents in the family and teachers at school.
Meanwhile, according to some sources, the pattern of parenting is the efforts of parents who actualized on the arrangement of social environment, cultural environment, psychological atmosphere and behavior that is displayed at the time of the meeting with children.
The definition of parenting is here identical to the definition of education:
Education is inculcating the main character in the soul of the students, watering it with water of guidance and counsel, so that it is firmly planted in the soul and produces virtue, kindness and charity for the benefit of the motherland.
According to Henry Clay Lindgren mentions that:
“The family is not a school, providing the first educational experiences beginning with the growth period with the business – the effort to guide and direct the child and train him “
Parenting refers to the atmosphere of teaching and learning activities that emphasize warmth rather than toward a one-way or no-emotional education.
Thus, parenting is how to educate parents towards children either directly or indirectly. Parenting concerns all the daily parenting behaviors that are directly related to the child or not, which can be captured or seen by his children, in the hope that what is given to the child (parenting) will have a positive impact on his life especially for religion, self, nation , as well as his country.
The main task of educating children still exist in the parents even though the child has been put into a religious school. The role of parents in educating and caring for children is very important in developing the potential of children. The process of planting trust is in the hands of parents because in this case the family is given the trust by God to educate and nurture their children.
Humans are said to be psycho-physics neutral creatures, creatures that have self-sufficiency (self ensteem) physical and spiritual. In its stubbornness man has the basic potential or basic ability which is a seed that can grow and develop. Growth and development requires education and guidance.
In childhood, they have no understanding in implementing the teachings of Islam, but this is where the role of parents in introducing and familiarizing children as an effort to explore their potential. The potential is especially religious potential.
The nature of religion in children follows the pattern of ideas on concept of authority, meaning that the concept of religion in themselves is influenced by factors outside themselves. Therefore, parents should be more intelligent in terms of raising children considering psychology, childhood is a potential period in its development.
In addition to humans as neo-neutral psycho-physics creatures, as well as homo-sociological beings, the character and the basic ability or who have the instinct to live in society. In addition to being an individual being, man is also a social being who has the need to interact with his group, interact with his environment.
In interacting with the environment there is a tendency of influences that enter in the person both in terms of behavior, style of speech, and pattern of life. So if a child has started to interact with the outside world, then the parental supervision in this case is very beneficial for children in its infancy and development.
Humans have a tendency to socialize and socialize with the outside world. In childhood, they still need guidance from parents in order to keep them in the morals. Therefore, parents should provide guidance and examples both at home and outside the home.